Community Circle Notes
**********Next Meeting: November 14, 2002, 7:00-10:00 p.m.—Rocky’s on
Circle Date: Saturday, October 12, 2002 at Kawashaway
Present: Beebalm, H, Stuart, Bumblebee, Bearberry, Oni, Plucky
Notes: We reviewed the notes and action items from the last circle. We
talked about a process for getting notes out in a timely fashion--some
of this dovetailed with discussion of communication issues in governance
CONSENSUS: The meeting note taker will e-mail draft notes to members present
at each meeting. After one week for revisions, the notes will be sent
to the Yahoo! group.
Follow Up on Donald's Presentation: Donald has scheduled us for Friday
evening, November 15th, location TBA. A postcard will go out from Two
Bears with that date, the next Circle date, and Thanksgiving plans. See
action items below.
Revision of Project Proposal: The proposed revised project policy was
discussed. We considered that even thought Will was not present to speak
for it, we would consider it and revisit it later as he wishes. Beebalm
objected to the removal of the title "Coordinatrix'" and explained that
it was meant for fun (-trix means a female who...). While others thought
first of an association with "dominatrix," no one objected after the discussion
to using that title.
CONSENSUS: The revised Project Policy submitted by Will was adopted, with
the inclusion of the title "Coordinatrix." Beebalm will follow up on the
action item from last meeting around communication of the policy.
Drug and Alcohol Discussion: Our discussion focused on continuing the
surfacing of issues begun on the Yahoo! list. Those include:
* approachability * it's disingenuous to say no to alcohol but yes to
other substances * possibility of more than one Gathering * Gathering
habits vs. other times of the year * common spaces being free of influence
* experiencing others; not liking the energy of others using * chem free
week before Gathering * being asked to take responsibility for others
and their needs for their space * liberty and the need not to legislate
every behavior * having integrity in the norms we set and the norms for
enforcing them * creating community and choices * guidelines for behavior
*how do we come to consensus on the matter? * having times when alcohol
might be enjoyed (work times) * how do we support faeries in recovery?
* where do community norms end and personal responsibility end? * liability
issues * why have some people been silent in the discussion so far? *
why do we want D&A free space? * what is our vision for Kawashaway?
* what is balance in this area? * how can we support each other around
getting what we each want out of community?
The conversation will continue.
Governance Discussion Follow Up
By Laws Revisions: H spoke for the need to get more input on
what faeries want governance to look like. Discussion about the fact that
many do not know how we do things now. Need to get the current By Laws
in integrity with our current state of affairs and then communicate that
to the community. See action item.
Communication: Discussion of what information from the Circles goes to
whom. What goes to which list? Snail mail vs. email? Separate list of
people interested in governance was proposed by Beebalm and White Ash.
How do we use postcards? People who have emails and are not on the Yahoo!
list? Having an announce-only list? Kawashaway vs. nwradfaes list? These
questions are referred back to the communications committee now consisting
of White Ash and Beebalm. See action item below.
Community vs. Sanctuary Issue: This item was a carry-over from the last
Circle, regarding what the Circle actually governs: the Sanctuary only
or the faerie community as well. Discussion was tabled to the next meeting.
Sex Between Minors and Adults: Discussion included: * What is the law?
What are the liabilities? * Do we want to be consistent with the law?
* How do we create a safe space? * How do we encourage sexuality? * need
to hear from attorneys on the matter
There was broad and deep consensus that we should eliminate the entire
clause (No. 2) on A/M sex from the policy on unwelcome behaviors. We reviewed
the clause on violence and noted that it included non-consensual sex.
Also, Beebalm will have an opinion on the liability and legal issues by
CONSENSUS: Remove the second clause on sex between adults and young people
from the Kawashaway list of unwelcome behaviors. Since this is a policy
of significance, the Circle decided to recommend that next month's Circle
consent to approve the change.
Financial Report: Not available at Circle time.
Fezzes: Oni would like us to have fezzes, since our non-profit status
is the same as a lodge. Design and head-measuring was tabled to the next
Forward to Next Circle
* Financial Report
* Discussion of Circle Mandate: Sanctuary vs./and/or Community
* Drug and Alcohol Discussion
* Change in A/M Sex policy
Future Meeting Dates
Thursday, November 14, 2002 Rocky’s 7-10 p.m.
Sunday, December 15, 2002 TBA 10 a.m.-1 p.m.
Thursday, January 9, 2003 TBA 7-10 p.m.
Saturday, February 1, 2003 Hilloway 9 a.m.-4 p.m. (GREAT CIRCLE)
what: include general liability issues in discussion w attorneys
when: next week
what: form By Law committee to propose revisions
when: November 1
who: Beebalm, Oni, Bearberry
what: add discussion of an additional D&A free week to Gathering into
the Gathering committee's discussion
when: by 10/14
what: call to list to discuss communications issues
when: November 1
who: Beebalm and White Ash
what: call to list and via postcards for input on Donald's consensus presentation
what: get dates for other events to Hbird for postcard
what: follow up w Rocky on Gathering meeting
what: apply for D&O insurance to get quote